New Content That Matters
Like I mentioned, it's been a crazy few weeks. The jetlag has been hitting me hard, but from tomorrow I'm full-on back in the game. While I've been adjusting to time zones, and while stuck in airports while traveling home, I've managed to drop some new content that might actually matter.
Here's what's waiting for you on the blog.
It's Okay to Be Okay
Social media has made performative suffering the new authenticity badge. Everyone's filming themselves crying in cars and trauma-dumping for likes. Here's the permission no one's giving you - it's okay to be mentally stable. It's okay to work through your shit privately. It's okay to not have a diagnosis that explains your existence. Being okay isn't boring or shallow - it might be the most profound achievement in a broken world.
The Freedom to Not Give a Fuck
Most people live trapped in cages built from others' opinions. There's profound freedom in this distinction: caring about people doesn't mean surrendering to their judgments. You can value someone's humanity without needing their approval of your choices. The difference isn't semantic - it's the gap between authentic living and perpetual performance. Stop exhausting yourself trying to manage how everyone perceives you. Care deeply, but selectively.
The All-Or-Nothing Trap
Your discipline keeps failing because your measurement system is broken. Setting only ideal targets guarantees eventual abandonment. The solution? Every important habit needs both a ceiling (ideal target) and a floor (non-negotiable minimum). One push-up is infinitely better than zero. The floor isn't lowering standards - it's eliminating the zeros that destroy momentum. Most people fail not from lack of willpower but from binary thinking that says perfection or nothing.
Fix or Face: The Wisdom of Knowing What You Can't Fix
People waste half their lives trying to fix what can only be faced while passively accepting what could be changed. Your physical health and mental patterns? Largely fixable through consistent action. But grief, uncertainty, and growth pains? These are weather you can only ride through, not problems you can solve. The tragedy is watching people surrender to situations they could transform while frantically trying to "hack" experiences they can only endure. Know the difference.
The Cost of Downplaying Our Pain
Kim tackled something important here – how we minimize our struggles to seem put-together. After her surgery, she realized we're all playing this game of "I'm fine" when we're not, creating the illusion that everyone else is handling life better than we are. The real impact? We all struggle alone, thinking we're the only ones finding it hard. By downplaying our genuine experiences, we don't just hurt ourselves – we inadvertently isolate others going through similar challenges. Sometimes the bravest thing isn't pushing through silently, but simply saying, "This is hard, and I'm struggling."
One Year Out: The Greenland Countdown
With exactly one year until my Greenland crossing begins, I'm reminded that past accomplishment doesn't pull future sleds. The ice doesn't care what I did yesterday. This expedition serves as both my most selfish act - managing my own demons through purpose - and my most selfless one, showing others what's possible in their own lives. The most important discoveries aren't made on the ice but in the space between who you are and who you must become to cross it.
You can link through, to any of the posts that speak to where you're at right now, by clicking on the links below.
The gap between who you are and who you need to become is where the real shit happens.
Let's meet there.